Well I guess it has been a while since I updated my journal, so I guess now is the time to do just that.
I guess a lot of things have been going on in my life. My ex was put in jail for non-payment of child support (for 30 days,it was actually on 28 days) Our court date was on the 3rd of October. I went to the hearing, even though I did not have to. I figured he'd be getting out and that he'd need a ride home. He gave me a snotty look in court and then would not look at me. After the judge said he could be released, he looked at me again and I mouthed the words "Do you need a ride home?" He finally smiled at me. He was blaming me for his going to jail, when in actuality it was the judge that sent him to jail for non-compliance. He's the one that chose not to work and not to pay his child support. I had no control of any of the situation. The prosecutor's office does not represent me, they represent my kids. He had called his sister from jail and told her, "That Bitch had me put in jail". I was able to talk to him before they took him back over to process him out, and the sheriff said he could call me when all of the paperwork was done, probably around 8 p.m..
Well, I waited and waited and by 9:30, there still was no phone call, so I called prisoner information to see what was going on. They informed me that he wasn't going to be released because he was in violation of his probation. Well, I thought it was because he failed to tell his probation officer that he was in jail, but that was not the case.
In actuality, I found out (after numerous phone calls) that he had had a bench warrant out for his arrest for several counts of probation violation. I actually got in touch with his probation officer and he told me that he had continually tested positive for drugs (#1), he failed to go on 6 full time job interviews that were set up by his probation officer (#2) and that he had failed to show up to his probation officer for 2 weeks straight. At that time his probation officer requested a bench warrant for his arrest. The officers went to his home to pick him up and he would not answer the door. So they went to where he was working part-time and he saw them coming and ran. They followed him home and he would not answer the door again. So running from them was #3. When they went to release him from jail on the 3rd, the bench warrant popped up and they held him. He just got out on his own recognizance 11th. He has a court date on the 13th of November. His PO told me he may end up going to jail to serve his full sentence of a year and a half. Geez, I hope not!
His Mom just died Thursday night and he was going to leave the state without contacting the authorities. I talked him into getting in touch with them so he wouldn't be considered a fugitive. Boy, that one scared me! He did get permission to go, as long as he returns with a copy of her death certificate. I feel very sad for him, but he only seems to be interested in the fact that his family is giving him his mother's car. He is going to drive back from California.
I guess I'm a real sap, 'cause I really DO care about him, even though we've been divorced for 6 years. I love him still, but could never, ever take him back. I would be a true FOOL to do that. But I don't want him in jail, and I don't want him to be sad about his mother's death, but he just doesn't seem to care about anybody but himself. (And sometimes, he doesn't even to that).
Well, I just rambling on and on and you all probably stopped reading this a long time ago.
The girls are really doing great. Their grades are absolutely wonderful. Erika is so exited about the possibility of attending Butler next year. Geez, I pray that I can make that happen for her.
Mandy is her wonderful self, mopy at times and happy and crazy and fun all rolled into one. I sure do love those two babies of mine!!!
I know that they are not really babies anymore, but I will always think of them like that even though they are both pretty mature young ladies. Well, gotta scoot and catch up on my friends and communities. (Thank God, huh? You thought I'd never stop, right?)
Love you all,